We’ve strategized, bribed, worried, and prayed. Today we celebrated victory! The school book fair has been open for business for 48 hours and Ryan hasn’t lifted a thing! Whoot whoot 🙂
I received an e-mail last week from Ryan’s teacher, Mrs. M. She is a fantastic lady who is really in tune with Ryan and his unique needs. Mrs. M. sought me out to ask if I had any suggestions about how we could work together to save Ryan from himself. Since we know that his impulsiveness is a direct link to his autism, along with a hard core obsession over books, we had to find a way in which to thwart his sticky fingers without demoralizing his spirit. Ryan has achieved an abundance of success this year, both academically and personally. We are in a situation that, with the wrong solution, could undermine the great progress he’s made.
I offered to volunteer at the school every day the book fair is in progress, solely to monitor Ryan’s whereabouts. Mrs. M. and I quickly dismissed this suggestion as that would be like reinforcing to Ryan that he can’t be trusted. Instead, Mrs. M suggested that she send a “buddy” to accompany Ryan on his trips to the resource room. I thought this was reasonable intervention and wouldn’t offend Ryan.
After dropping the kids off at school this morning, I was stopped by a very anxious Mrs. M just outside Ryan’s classroom. She was ready to burst, yet her eyes were glistening. She wanted to let me know that our plan was working. She recounted the previous day when Ryan was on his way back from the resource room with his “buddy.” She said as he was walking by the hall where all of the merchandise was displayed, his arms were flapping and he seemed a little intense. In his defense, uncontrolled impulsiveness is almost impossible to ignore. Anyway, she exclaimed, “He did it!!! He walked right past the hallway and didn’t even look at the books!” Well, my heart clenched, my eyes glistened, and I was one proud mama! He really did it.
The book fair will continue until Thursday. I’m not sure that we are out of the woods quite yet, but he had TWO successful days! He resisted temptation and acted responsibly. With every victory, my hope for his future takes ginormous leaps. Today my heart is smiling. Oh, he was also the winner of a $5 book fair gift certificate in today’s 4th grade drawing. Way to go Ryan!